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Most first dates fail because of one thing: interview mode. “What do you do?” “Where did you grow up?” “Do you have siblings?” Boring. Your date feels like a job interview.
Fix: Share first, then ask. Instead of “What do you do?” say “I just left my accounting job to start a bakery – crazy, right? What’s something you’ve taken a risk on?” That’s interesting. Also, avoid the phone. Keep it in your pocket. Be present. Another killer: talking about exes. Never, ever on a first date. Also, don’t dominate the conversation. Aim for 50/50 talking time.
If you’re nervous, use the FORD method: Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams. But weave it naturally. Example: “My sister lives in Chicago. Have you ever been?” Finally, have a fun story ready. “The weirdest thing that happened to me this week was…” Laughter builds connection. Try this: before your next date, write down 3 interesting things about your week. Then ask 3 open-ended questions.
Your success rate will skyrocket.